I promise this will be the last post in awhile about my personal motherhood experience, but I wanted to follow up on my recent post. Last week, I confessed that I worked with my 13mo old child around far too much and challenged myself to not work around her for one week. The results are in!
I stayed true to my commitment 80% of the time. For the most part, I left the iPhone in another room or in the diaper bag while I spent time with Regina Jade -- out of sight and out of mind! I also started waking up about an hour before she does to read and reply to urgent emails or writing (like I'm doing right now).
Yesterday morning, I did have to transfer photos and video from my phone for a client, which was still pretty minor compared to writing articles and sending emails in her presence.
The good thing is, I missed absolutely nothing by waiting until she was down for her nap to work. I also felt much more present in general, which was my goal.
With the exception of deadlines that are in the red zone, or "fires" that need to be put out, working with your child around is a lot like checking emails in real-time; you feel like you are getting ahead, but you're really not.
I've also realized that because I work from home right now and full-time daycare isn't in the budget yet, there are going to be times when balancing work and baby will be very hard. I've concluded that this doesn't make me a bad mother and every family has their challenges they get through together.
Much of what I learned from this experience is to let go of trying to be the "perfect mama" because I'm exactly what she needs just the way I naturally am (minus the iPhone4 screen stuck to my pointer-finger). I think as moms, we always want to do better, which is a good thing, but we also need to feel strong and confident that if our child is thriving and smiles often, we are already doing a great job.
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